Shaming

Do we do what we do in order to satisfy ourselves or the expectations of other people ? A good friend recently questioned why I live in the building where I live when I could live somewhere much “better” and representative of his perception of me. This made me question why I make the choices that I make. The answer in this case is that I am living in a building that makes me feel good and excited about the possibilities even though it is not luxurious in the conventional way. I do it for me and not to impress my friends. I think in this case, the friend was projecting his dream of his ideal home on me and was surprised that I have different requirements. I almost wrote “expectations” but this is another loaded word that can only lead to disappointment. I enjoy making choices that please me but do not necessarily impress friends or neighbours. Perhaps my ego is under-functioning 😉